Hey there, it’s Hadar and this is the Accent’s Way and this is the place for
you if you are a non-native speaker of English who is looking to feel confident, clear and proud when speaking English.
Now have you ever taken private lessons with a tutor or an English teacher or
even group classes and you weren’t sure if this is the right teacher for you?
Have you ever wondered whether or not you’re just wasting your time or
actually seeing progress…
So this episode is about how to know if you are learning
with the right teacher for you
and if you are getting the best out of your
So let’s get started.
The first thing you need to ask yourself is what is the emotion that you’re experiencing
once the class has ended.
Do you feel this bubbly excitement of success and improvement?
Do you feel defeated and challenged but you have clarity, you know what you need to work on?
Do you feel tired but happy?
Do you feel good about yourself?
Or do you feel like a failure? Do you beat yourself up?
Do you feel like you’ll never be able to get it?
Do you feel self-conscious? Are you ashamed?
A good teacher will never let you feel bad
Because a good teacher will always empower you, make you feel great about yourself, show your strengths
but also your weaknesses with a clear
strategy on how to improve that.
They will not keep you confused or stuck or feeling self-conscious and feeling like a failure.
You know I was once talking to
a teacher that used to teach at this
really big language school and he said
that the management had asked them to
understand what the biggest struggles of
their students are and then to
accentuate them, make them a big deal
instead of helping them resolve it.
Why? Because it was their marketing strategy. It kept them in the school, it kept them taking more and more
and more classes.
But it’s a horrible strategy if you ask me.
But unfortunately, people do that. So you as an English learner, you need to understand
what it is that you’re experiencing and if the these are
negative feelings then something is
wrong. Because this is not how it’s supposed to be.
Another thing you need to ask yourself is who does most of the talking?
If you find yourself just sitting there
and listening to the teacher talk about
English and about things and about rules
and explaining all of these things to
you and you find yourself not speaking
as much it’s a problem. Because you need
to do most of the speaking with feedback,
with guidance, with direction but you
need to do most of the speaking. So if
you find yourself mostly listening and
reading or writing then you might be
missing out on a better opportunity to
practice because if you’re learning just
passively constantly it’s just like
watching a YouTube video you want to put
it to practice right away and as much as
possible. So this is something by the way
that you can tell your teacher that you
want to do you can say: “Hey, I feel like
I’m not speaking enough. Let’s try a session where we just talk about things
that bother me, a few subjects, maybe read
an article and then talk about it but I
want to do most of the talking and you
just give me feedback.” Now of course when
you go into a lesson it’s easier to just
sit down and listen and be less active
but you got to catch yourself because if
that’s a situation you’re wasting your
time and money, right. So although it’s
easier and more convenient you got to
step out of your comfort zone, you got to
feel uncomfortable, you got to push
yourself and you got to stand your
ground and say what you need and
communicate it clearly to your teacher.
The third thing you need to ask yourself
is are you both aligned with what is the
best way for you to learn? What is the
best content to discuss? What is the best
way for you to get feedback? Some people
prefer to get feedback right away every
mistake on every single thing, others
prefer to get feedback only on the
important things and some may prefer to
get feedback only at the end so they
don’t lose their train of thought as
they’re trying to speak. You need to
understand what works best for you and
you need to communicate that to your teacher.
Because some teachers are sometimes teaching because that’s what
they think is best and if someone tells
you: “No-no, I know what’s best for you. You
listen to me.” That person is not empathetic or is sensitive to your needs.
Same thing with content if your teacher
teaches you things that are not
interesting to you or you feel you’ll
never use then you need to say: “hey, this
doesn’t work for me. Let’s say something
else. I want to talk about this and I
need to talk about that and this is my
world of content, this is where I come from.
I want to discuss technology and
negotiations and practice small talk and
I don’t want so much to talk about hypothetical situations of Martha and Arthur at the zoo.
Understand that even
if you are with the same teacher there
isn’t just one method of teaching
English and you need to see if
something’s working for you, is it
getting your results,
do you understand it, do you pick it up
quickly. If not there is a problem with a
method, not with you, okay. It’s not you
that is the problem, maybe it’s the
method, maybe it’s the energy maybe it’s
how you feel because when you feel
self-conscious the brain shuts down and
you don’t learn anything new. But when
you feel empowered and open and
challenged in a good way then you are
open to change. In order for you to learn
something deeply in order for it to
stick you need to associate good emotion
as you’re learning and if the feeling is
of frustration and fear then it’s
not gonna stick, okay.
So you need to be aware of that and change whatever need to change in order for you to create the
best circumstances for yourself.
The fourth thing is do you know your 20 percent?
According to the Pareto principle, 80% of the results come from 20% of the causes.
So if we look at the business world for example then we can say that
responsible for 80% of the income.
So in English it’s very much the same thing.
If you work on the areas where you struggle
with okay whether it’s specific grammar
rules or specific sounds or an element
of fluency, if you work on that and just
on that it will get you 80% of the
result of where you want to be.
So you need to know what are the things that will get you the best results and your
teacher needs to recognize those things
and tell you, communicate to you what they are.
So whether or not you need to
work on your present tense because
everything else is great but you always
get stuck when you try to speak in the present tense
and what do you need to do in order to improve that.
Or let’s say that in terms of clarity you have all these things in your speech
but you don’t need to work on all the sounds. It’s enough that you
work on the R and on your rhythm and
it will give you a huge boost to your clarity.
So your job is to know what your
still struggle with but if you resolve
them it will kind of like open up the
gates to fluency and you will feel a lot
more fluent, you’ll get stuck less and
you’ll be a lot clearer and focus just
on that and you two need to do that
together. So if that hasn’t been
communicated to you just yet then you
need to ask your teacher to tell you
what those things are and ask your
teacher to focus on those things as
you’re learning. But if they don’t know
and they start giving you all of these
things and every time they give you
feedback they give you a lot of notes
about everything and you feel
overwhelmed and confused then there’s a
problem even when you get feedback the
feedback should be the 20% the things
that will get you the best results
because you don’t need to start correcting every single thing
it will be super inhibiting and almost impossible to grow from there.
The last thing is do you feel intellectually challenged?
Do you feel that your teacher sees you as a peer, as a person who can conduct a conversation,
an intelligent conversation with this
language barrier, yes
with less vocabulary but still the
content is engaging and interesting.
If you feel that they’re speaking to you
like a little kid it will make you feel like a little kid.
So you need to feel that your intelligence is not compromised.
You need to be able to talk about deep things even if it’s not perfect,
even if you make mistakes and even if you’re lacking the vocabulary.
Your teacher is there to help you, right.
But you don’t need to feel like you are
only talking about stupid things just
because it’s an English class.
No, that’s the wrong direction.
And of course, you can tell your teacher that and change that.
Take charge of your training, okay?
So to conclude, you have to be responsible for the time that you’re investing.
Don’t leave all responsibility to the teacher.
Sometimes they don’t know what they’re doing, sometimes they think
that they’re doing the best thing for
you when in fact it’s not and you it’s
like in a relationship right if you’re
not gonna speak up nothing will change
and then at the end, you will quit and
everyone loses, okay.
You lose time and money and they lose an opportunity to really help someone, okay.
So communicate your needs, understand your needs, understand what is not working for you
and then change it.
So to conclude, I want you to take action and answer these two questions in the comments below:
The first thing is tell us about one really
good experience with a teacher and one
not so good experience with a teacher
and why that happened and what did you
do about it?
The second thing is what to your opinion makes a good teacher? Right.
What are you looking for in a good teacher.
So I named my five things. I’m really curious to hear what are the
things that you are looking for in a
So just so you know you don’t really have to take private lessons or group classes
in order to improve your English.
You can do that on your own and if you want to do
it watching YouTube videos and using
online resources I’d be happy to help you.
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really feel the improvement.
Thank you so much for watching and I’ll see you next week in the next video.