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then that person is not empathetic or is sensitive to your needs.

Same thing with content. If your teacher teaches you things that are not interesting to you or you feel you’ll never use, then you need to say: “Hey, this doesn’t work for me. Let’s do something else. I want to talk about this and I need to talk about that, and this is my world of content, this is where I come from. I want to discuss technology and negotiations, and practice small talk. And I don’t want so much to talk about hypothetical situations of Martha and Arthur at the zoo”.

Understand that even if you are with the same teacher, there isn’t just one method of teaching English. And you need to see if something’s working for you. Is it getting your results, do you understand it, do you pick it up quickly? If not there is a problem with a method, not with you, okay? It’s not you that is the problem, maybe it’s the method, maybe it’s the energy, maybe it’s how you feel. Because when you feel self-conscious the brain shuts down and you don’t learn anything new.

But when you feel empowered and open and challenged in a good way, then you are open to change. In order for you to learn something deeply, in order for it to stick you need to associate good emotion as you’re learning. And if the feeling is of frustration and fear, then it’s not gonna stick, okay. So you need to be aware of that and change whatever need to change in order for you to create the best circumstances for yourself.

The fourth thing is “do you know your 20 percent?” According to the Pareto principle, 80% of the results come from 20% of the causes. So, if we look at the business world, for example, then we can say that 20% of the products lead to the 80% of the revenue, or 20% of the clients responsible for 80% of the income.

So, in English it’s very much the same thing. If you work on the areas where you struggle with, okay, whether it’s specific grammar rules or specific sounds, or an element of fluency, if you work on that and just on that it will get you 80% of the result of where you want to be.

So you need to know what are the things that will get you the best results. And your teacher needs to recognize those things and tell you, communicate to you what they are. So whether or not you need to work on your present tense because everything else is great but you always get stuck when you try to speak in the present tense, and what do you need to do in order to improve that.

Or let’s say that in terms of clarity you have all these things in your speech, but you don’t need to work on all the sounds. It’s enough that you work on the R and on your rhythm, and it will give you a huge boost to your clarity. So your job is to know what your 20% is, what are the things that you still struggle with. But if you resolve them it will kind of like open up the gates to fluency, and you will feel a lot more fluent, you’ll get stuck less and you’ll be a lot clearer, and focus just on that. And you two need to do that together.

So if that hasn’t been communicated to you just yet, then you need to ask your teacher to tell you what those things are and ask your teacher to focus on those things as you’re learning. But if they don’t know and they start giving you all of these things, and every time they give you feedback they give you a lot of notes about everything and you feel overwhelmed and confused, then there’s a problem.

Even when you get feedback, the feedback should be the 20% the things that will get you the best results. Because you don’t need to start correcting every single thing, it will be super inhibiting and almost impossible to grow from there.

The last thing is do you feel intellectually challenged? Do you feel that your teacher sees you as a peer, as a person who can conduct a conversation, an intelligent conversation with this language barrier? Yes, with less vocabulary, but still the content is engaging and interesting.

If you feel that they’re speaking to you like a little kid, it will make you feel like a little kid. So you need to feel that your intelligence is not compromised. You need to be able to talk about deep things even if it’s not perfect, even if you make mistakes, and even if you’re lacking the vocabulary. Your teacher is there to help you, right?

But you don’t need to feel like you are only talking about stupid things just because it’s an English class. No, that’s the wrong direction. And of course, you can tell your teacher that, and change that. Take charge of your training, okay?

So, to conclude, you have to be responsible for the time that you’re investing. Don’t leave all responsibility to the teacher. Sometimes they don’t know what they’re doing, sometimes they think that they’re doing the best thing for you, when in fact it’s not. And it’s like in a relationship, right? If you’re not gonna speak up, nothing will change and then at the end, you will quit and everyone loses, okay. You lose time and money and they lose an opportunity to really help someone, okay? So communicate your needs, understand your needs, understand what is not working for you, and then change it.

So to conclude, I want you to take action and answer these two questions in the comments below. The first thing is, tell us about one really good experience with a teacher and one not so good experience with a teacher, and why that happened and what did you do about it?

The second thing is what to your opinion makes a good teacher? Right? What are you looking for in a good teacher? So I named my five things. I’m really curious to hear what are the things that you are looking for in a good teacher.

So just so you know you don’t really have to take private lessons or group classes in order to improve your English, you can do that on your own. And if you want to do it watching YouTube videos and using online resources, I’d be happy to help you.

So don’t forget to subscribe and hit the bell to get notifications. And you can also visit my website to get a lot of free stuff, free courses, and really feel the improvement, improve significantly.

Thank you so much for watching, and I’ll see you next week in the next video. Bye.