Speak English Like a Native Speaker – THE MYTH

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Want to speak like a native in English? Of course you do. Who wouldn’t want that?
But …
What if I told you that setting the goal TO SPEAK AND SOUND LIKE A NATIVE in English could also be the reason why you still feel stuck and insecure in English?

Here’s why:
  1. This concept ‘to speak like a native’ implies there is only one ‘right’ way to speak English. In fact, the opposite is true. Native speakers have vastly different accents and expressions, and even use different forms of grammar. What the English learning industry perceives as the standard, is only one type of English spoken by a select group of people. Once you understand that there’s more variety and more room for different voices, you’ll have more freedom in your speaking.
  2. While you may believe the goal to ‘speak English like a native’ keeps you motivated, in reality it could strengthen the two biggest fears that prevent people from pursuing their goals – the fear of not being good enough and the fear of rejection.

In the video, I’m going to explain why this happens and how you can achieve fluency and freedom by changing the way you think about English.

I have been a fluency and pronunciation coach for 12 years. I have taught thousands of students.
When I used to promote the idea that their end goal should be to ‘speak like a native’, I saw that my students were not able to appreciate their progress or feel contentment, because no matter what they had achieved they still felt like they were far from the ‘native’ ideal.

I also felt this myself, as a non-native English speaker seeking to sound like a native. When I was trying to keep the form of ‘perfect standard English’ I felt so limited and was in constant fear of getting things wrong. When I changed my way of thinking about English, I was able to achieve so much more in my ability to communicate, without the burden and pressure of sounding a certain way – the pressure of having to pass as an American.

But you know what the best part is? Once freedom is achieved, it’s so much easier to actually reach your true goals – to feel as comfortable and free in English as you do in your native language.

Here’re more episodes to boost your confidence in English:

10 ways to DESTROY your English Fluency + FREE PDF with 30 powerful affirmations to boost your confidence and fluency

How To Get Over The Fear Of Being Judged When Speaking English

How To Sound Confident In English (Even When You’re Not!)

How to Use Your Voice in ENGLISH to Sound Powerful and Confident

How non-native speakers can overcome insecurities and become successful professionals: Sun Yi’s Story

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10 Comments on “Speak English Like a Native Speaker – THE MYTH”

  1. Hello Hadar.
    Since I met you in YouTube my perception of how to learn and Speak English changed. I am very grateful for your sensibility and passion to teach. Before you I always thought that it was too late to improve my English. You inspire me to want to learn and speak with confidence, clarity and feeling proud of myself. I am a Latina living in Los Angeles.
    Thanks a lot

  2. Dear Hadar ! Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me. Some comments I have left in your Instagram that I like to visit sometimes (I hope you can forgive me that). For me the decision on your question is simple. At my very early stage of my scientific carrier I had got entangled into the international scientific community for at least 2-3 decades. Here, the “best English speaker” was who pronounced the words with absolutely neutral accent. This became my habit and I don’t see reason to change. Of course, for a young person in Africa for instance, who would like to immigrate to the USA it is probably important to talk English using an accent innate somewhere in the USA. I however, dislike that phenomenon very much. It is nothing, but another form of racial discrimination which I hate. This hatred may be innate (see: Chomsky) in the structure of my mind. Laszlo

  3. Hi Hadar,

    For my part, I prefer feeling completely like myself when speaking English to be honnest. Indeed, to me, the most important is to be understood and to be able to express myself with nuances and master the language.

    Many thanks.

  4. Hi Hadar,

    Thank you for this vídeo. It was what I really needed to hear. Sometimes Ifeel that English is not for me, but with your vídeo I realized that it is because I was expecting irrealistic and unecessary goals for me. So, thank you for this vídeo.
    It changed my viewpoint about what I really want when I try to improve my english.
    Please keep doing your good job!!!

  5. I wanted english like simple. Because I’ll want to speak some for work. I understand than speak, I don’t have anybody to talking here. I live in Brazil. I’ll want to have video class or chance mensages in whatsapp.
    I hope any answers me.

    Thanks.

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