How to stay MOTIVATED when learning ENGLISH | 5 ground rules

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I’ve been wanting to meditate every morning for the past 2.5 years.
Every time I start, it only lasts for a few days and then I quit or simply forget about it.
You’re probably saying to yourself now: “Guess that’s just not high on your priority list, Hadar”.
But it is, oh man, it is.
I know that it’s going to help me.
Give me some white space in that monkey mind of mine.
So why don’t I do it?

Has that ever happened to you?
Have you ever started something and then.. stopped?
Has that ever happened to you with English?

You wanted to improve your fluency, pronunciation, clarity, confidence, grammar or vocabulary…
You did a thing or two online, you took a class, but –
You didn’t stick to it.
Even though I know it’s high on your priority list.

Now, while I’m a hot mess when it comes to meditation,
Luckily I’m on top of it when it comes to English.
My own skills and abilities were acquired through hard work without giving up or seizing to believe in myself.

But I also know that YOU might be struggling with staying motivated as you learn and practice English, just as I struggle with meditation.
You see, when learning English, there’s usually no clear deadline or super specific goal. There is no finish line after which you say to yourself, now I can rest.
And this ambiguity and uncertainty make it hard to follow through and to stay motivated.

In this week’s video, I’m sharing the FIVE ground rules for staying motivated when learning English (even if your TED talk is not yet scheduled 😉

Do not procrastinate on this one. Free up 15 minutes of your time and watch this lesson,
even if it’s just to see me do a funny dance. Click to Watch the video.

After watching the video, you’ll see that the first rule is to find your ‘why’.
The big reason why you want to master English.

I want to share with you that the reason why I never lost my motivation to learn and improve my English is that I was always very clear on my ‘why’.
You want to know what it is?
My ‘why’, is to simplify English for others, the way I was able to simplify it for myself
and to connect with people from all around the world

What’s your ‘why’?
I’m dying to know. Share it with me in the comments below!
If you have any tips about how to be more consistent with meditation, I want to read them too! 😉

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24 Comments on “How to stay MOTIVATED when learning ENGLISH | 5 ground rules”

  1. Hi Hadar,I love watching your enthusiasm and motivating videos. You make learning the English process, easy, funny and efficient.I am a Spanish native man who has been studied the English language badly for decades due to our education system. That`s why I decided to take advantage of technology resources so that I can learn by my self. I am utterly grateful to you and appreciate so much all you are doing to help people like me.My dream is to become a fluent English speaker so that we canlive abroad in 2 o 3 years. Thanks a olot Hadar!!

  2. Hi Teacher<
    Thank you very much for sharing the videos LOVE them, I am not kidding "YOU ARE THE BEST"
    I am from Costa Rica, Leaving in PA

  3. Hi hadar,
    Thanks for sending this amazing video as every you send i love it, i love the simple way to explain and give us tips, so useful. Thanks

  4. Hi Hadar 🙂 🙂

    I left my ‘why’ on your YT channel so I won’t repeat it. If someone want to look at it I’ll give a link below:

    If you discipline yourself every single day for minimum 21 days you will catch a good habit 🙂
    You can believe it because it is a fact 🙂
    Think about what you expect from meditation.
    Firstly I know it might be hard. But if you find some time (e.g. 10 minutes in the morning or 10 minutes in the evening everyday not necessary in the same time) you will see that every next day stay easier to do it, to continue it.
    I recommend start since 5 min and gradually adding a one minute more per day or add 5 minutes more per week. You can sit down, relax yourself, your body, your mind, start from slowly deep breath, and concentrate on your breath.
    In first month could be difficult stay and keep practice regularly everyday meditation. But it worth it. Next month will be easier 😀

    A human being need 3 weeks to create a new neurological path in brain to create a new habit. Some medical research proved it.

    I checked on myself as well. For example everyday a few minutes I’ve made some exercise like simple, basic plank or jump on skipping–rope 150 jumping without skewing and make some stretched exercise 🙂 I’m not young like 20 years old haha but I feel mentalny young ^^.
    Remember discipline strengthens human character. When I finish this exercise I feel happier 😀 Maybe it sound silly but it is, seriously 😀 It works similar with meditation.

    Have you chosen one of the ways of meditation (yet)?
    Or maybe have you consider one of them which one to pick up?
    I don’t know what do you know about meditation at the moment 🙂 What do you know about Taiji/Chi/Prana/Kriya ki, Kundalini etc.

    What the meditation can give us ?
    I think not only clear, calm, some white space in that monkey mind (it could stopped of trylion cyclons thoughts in human head :)) but you can receive a lot of benefits when you will be practicing meditation. It helps to be right here, right now, not to be in the past or in the future… 🙂
    After meditation you can feel something good internal, also good mood, good energy in your body, calm, peace, positive attitude to do something good etc. etc

    I have been deepening my knowledge in this field.

    You can also consider what stops you to practice meditation. Why it stopped you?, it could be important reason for you. Ask yourself, what it is?
    Maybe your ego or something else is blocking you. Find it and rid of that obstacle, throw it into an infinite abyss – forever and enjoy yourself positive energy 🙂

    Best regards 😀

  5. Hello Hadar…
    First of all I’m thankful for the mail. I always love the way you teach and making things more simpler for better understanding. The reason for my ‘why’ is that i want to improve my communication skills in English and sounds more natural.
    Once again thanks for all the great works…
    Best regards,

  6. Hi Hadar !

    This is my 3rd comment but I feel the question you raised is so important that multiple commentary can be justified. Motivation, particularly sustained motivation requires a set of decisions. E.g. one has to decide between engaging with entertainment or to continue practising English. Singular decisions may be sometimes difficult. (Some psychologists point out for instance the psycho-linguistic identity of the roots in the verbs like de-cide, homi-cide, sui-cide.)
    My motivation to start to engage with practising English on an every-day basis needs for instance the decision to undertake to expose my elderly voice worsened by chronic laryngitis to foreign people. That is not so simple. (In fact, 5 of my talking partners have given up joint discussions we have started on the Skype.) Fortunately, I can find English speaking people in my home environment.
    Of course, I haven’t given up yet hoping to find speaking partners on the internet. And the reason is simple. I would feel if I quitted practising English talking person-to-person I would loose a part of my personality. In the the quite long part of my active period the English language had been a significant part of my life. About that I have written in my other comments. Laszlo Latzkovits

  7. Hi Hadar !
    This is Laszlo again. I feel I have to supplement what I have written above.
    I think every man or woman may have sometimes motivation problems. It may be a result from temporary bad mood. Of course, I also experienced over the passed quite long time that I didn’t start with a plan when I had wanted earlier. I myself I have never been good at keeping a time schedule. On the other hand, I usually found people who had always acted an absolutely precise way, a little boring. Healthy people daydream and these daydreams many times interfere with setting our mind to focus upon a certain goal.
    Of course, an achievement may need strong concentration of the mind conducted every day on a long run. But good to know when learning a language that playful mindset is much more effective than the boring one.
    Starting every day with meditation seems for me a hard job. I have never tried to do.
    Thank you again for the superb video. Laszlo

  8. Hi Hadar !
    Thank yo so much for sending your video !
    I’m perhaps a bit special case because in few days I’m going to be 84 years old. Over my relatively long life I became a physician (MD), specialized in psychiatry, conducted and published (mostly in English) a lot of bio-medical research so I soon got the degree of PhD (in biology) and later (after having stayed 2 years in France and thereafter more than 4 years in the USA) I became the Doctor of Science (biology). At international meetings and seminars I delivered lectures in English quite often. I did teaching in English. For all of that I needed first of all a fluent English, some German and a bit French, as well.
    Therefore, I simply didn’t need motivation for foreign language learning. Particularly, for learning the English. It was simply a part of my life. I usually prepared myself for exams from books written in English or German
    However, things had changed after my retirement. My contact with the living, spoken English has loosened. I have read a lot in English (most of my private library consists of books written in English or German). Still I read in English almost as fluent as in Hungarian. (My native tongue.)
    However I have got less and less opportunity to speak in English. Although, I got sometimes English speaking students as patients. Consequently, my fluency started to get staled a bit 10-15 years after my retirement.
    I have to admit I have never approached learning a foreign language by a pure utilitarian way. For me it has never bore an exclusive significance that the audience better judges my lecture if my deliver is fluent and my accent reminds of the native one. I knew the content of my lecture, the presented scientific findings counted more. I know it was the special advantage of my field.
    So, I learned foreign languages also to read foreign art literature in original. Or read, e.g. Japanese literature in good English translation. (Unfortunately I don’t speak Japanese.)
    Nevertheless, when I observed that the fluency of my speech was getting worsened I panicked a bit. I felt if I were going to lose a part of my personality.

    And that is my main motivation for my intensifying again at 84 my practising the English speaking. I don’t want to loose a part o my personality.
    Laszlo Latzkovits

  9. Hi Hadar
    I am Asif from India and one of the members of your Fluenzy Challenge Group. Like many people I too can write good english but at same time not able to communicate verbally well. Here we don’t use english for speaking but use it only for texting in social media and in official letters. 99.99% of the time we use regional languages and that is the main stumnlimg block of fluenzy. My ‘why’ is I want to be a good speaker in english and be able to speak before an audience or a group of people at ease!! The mere thought of it makes me thrilled!! Definitely my confidence level will ve very high if I am fluent in english. And this confidence is the essence of our success in life. That means to be able to succeed in life one must be confident and this can be achieved once you become very fluent!! So kindly help me all possible help to achieve that status!!
    Thank you
    Best Regards

  10. Hi Hadar
    Thank u for the mail to me. Ur speeches are really fantastic. It arouses great energy in me. As an Indian,where the meditatation technique was first originated, I know the various techniques of start from basic meditation technique that is sit comfortably on a floor or a chair somewhere away from noise.start breathing as usual and concentrate on the breathe.
    Do remember spend less time in the early days and and when days passed by you can add more techniques and more time
    As of this why I wanted to become an effective English teacher.
    With lots of wishes

  11. hello Hadar!!!
    I started listening you yesterday… but you are really great speaker!! you are really cute…
    i am student of electrical engineering.. and i want to become fluent in english only for a better position in my class.

    thanks again for your amazing videos…
    best regards,


  12. Hello Hadar
    Thank you for your lectures on improving English communication skills.
    My reason ‘why’ is to improve my communication skills in work and in daily activities.
    When I tried to express my thoughts on any topic and not able to express completely and effectively.

    Your suggestions will be highly appreciated.

    Thank you

  13. Hi Hadar,
    First I have to say you are really inspiring by the way in which you are teaching. And, what is not incidental, I confirmed by my American friends you are an outstanding English speaker. As for me, when I wonder what is my ”why”, this brings me to the conclusion it is just to repair a kind of ”infirmity”. English isn’t a foreign language for me but a universal one. The funny – if I may say so – issue is I was pretty good at learning languages such as German, Russian and Latine at school (very very long ago). And it is much more difficult for me with English. I discovered recently English was a ”analogical” tongue unlike the ones I mentioned. Whatever, it will take the time it takes but my dream is to be able to give a lecture like Ted Talks for example and in English of course. I just hope I will be able to walk without walker at that point!
    Thank you again for your communicative energy.
    Kind regards.

  14. Hello man thank you so much for this email actually I too feel the problem of motivation as I always start learning English but after some time I fed up because I think it’s not working nicely. I want to be fluent speaker in English because in my working place I have to communicate with other in English there is no option for my native language. I have all degree and qualifications only the barrier in my career is English so I have to work on it to improve my pronunciation and fluency. Your videos give me motivation that’s why I am really thankful to you .

  15. Hello Hadar,
    Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge to the world. I am suffering every single day being intimidated with my colleagues at work because of my poor English speaking ability. I can understand English very well but I always lost my mind when someone is talking to me. I get easily distracted and totally get lost. My why is that I really want to be able to communicate well in English and my dream is to become a great public speaker and motivator in my work place and I don’t want this kind of feeling being nuisance to others. Your advice will be very much appreciated.

    Thank you.

  16. Hi Hadar,
    I really enjoy watching your videos. I have learned so much from you. I took some ESL classes years ago, which it has helped me a lot, but I feel that I need to learn more. My accent still there, which is ok, what it really bothers me is my pronunciation and lack of vocabulary. A month ago I got promoted to a supervisor in the department that I work for. I am super happy because I never dream that that could be possible. When I think of write something I still get nervous and just to think that I might won’t be able to do it it makes me sad. Whoever, am going to do my best by learning as much as I can. One of my goals for the year is to study five hours of the week, but I can feel already that am not doing it. My dream is that once I improved my English I might get the managers position.
    Thank you so much for your support.

  17. Hello Hader,
    Your video gave me strong wings to fly in the sky called English. I Love that funny dance and it strikes me lot?

  18. Hello, dear harder,
    When somebody relates their life with some videos, they appreciate those videos. I’m now exactly the same state of mind. Because of I can relate some of those tips of yours with my life. I applied some of those tips in the unconscious mind when my life was chaotic and our this journey is a long journey there would be ups and downs in our motivation! And you are a rock and beautiful teacher with full of energy and motivation when I see you I automatically get energized. Lots of thanks and a virtual hug!:)

  19. Dear teacher, thank you for the very enlightening videos you send to so many English students around the world, like me for example. My feeling is eternally grateful to you for this.

  20. Hello Hadar,
    Thanks for sharing your great knowledge and enthusiasm, I really appreciate and enjoyed.
    I really want to improve my English pronunciation, I am a Spanish native speaker and I live in the USA. I can write and read English well, but my accent and pronunciation need help. Right now I trying to obtain my real estate license and I would like to learn more words in that are specifically. Any recommendations in this matter I will really appreciated.

    Thanks again!
    Best regards,


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