I have a confession to make.
For many years, I’ve felt like I have nothing meaningful to say.
That I was boring, unintelligent and I have no idea what’s going on in the world.
I felt that every time I would start a conversation,
heavy fog would cover my brain, and I couldn’t articulate my thoughts clearly.
And to be honest,
I still feel that sometimes.
Because of that,
I made a subconscious decision of speaking as little as possible
in any given situation, especially in English.
I would speak, yes.
But I became the best person to speak TO.
I developed wise and subtle skills to deflect any question,
turn it around,
and get other people to speak.
I became an excellent listener so I don’t have to do all the talking.
And you know what,
I really enjoyed it.
Over the years, this skill has turned me into a good teacher as I easily get my students to talk.
But also, by doing this,
I have learned so much about people and behaviors
that I started having things to say about almost anything.
And now, I really can’t shut up.
Sometimes, we, as speakers of English as a second language,
are so preoccupied with what we are going to say,
how to say it,
what tense to use and what word to choose,
that we forget to listen and be a part of the conversation.
In this week’s blog I am sharing with you five tips that will make you a better conversation partner, and as a result improve your conversation skills,
speaking skills and confidence.